You Are Already Her

During our April Across the Pond webinar on Leading with Confidence, we asked a simple yet piercing question:

“What’s the biggest challenge you face as a woman in leadership?”

The responses came quickly and honestly—words flooding the screen in a live word cloud that took on a life of its own:

Visibility. Credibility. Unconscious bias. Self-doubt. Prejudice. Self-talk. Being taken seriously.

And these weren’t abstract concepts. They were truths.

Lived experiences.

Leadership roadblocks women across every industry, age, and culture are still navigating.

But what struck me most wasn’t just the language. It was the weight behind it.

The collective exhale.

The silent nods.

The“Yes, that’s mine too.”

So many of us are still pouring out while being overlooked.

Still showing up while being underestimated.

Still doing the inner work and the outer grind just to be seen as enough.

And yet… we lead anyway.

Because confidence isn’t just about standing tall—it’s about standing in community.

It’s about calling out the systems and the self-talk.

It’s about choosing to lead anyway—with clarity, courage, and yes, confidence.

To every woman who’s ever questioned her worth, her voice, or her presence in the room—you are not the problem. You are the leader we need.

But let’s go deeper.

Because this isn’t just a leadership lesson. It’s personal. It’s spiritual. It’s a soul check.

This is what I call your Simba moment.

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What Is a Simba Moment?

You know the scene in The Lion King. Simba sees his reflection in the water—and instead of just his face, he sees his father. His calling. His purpose. He remembers who he is.

That’s what I mean by a Simba moment.

It’s not the roar at the top of the mountain.

It’s the pause in the valley.

It’s that sacred moment when you’ve built everything around helping others rise—coaching, creating, leading—and yet you find yourself quietly wondering:

“Am I doing enough?”

“Am I missing something?”

“Why doesn’t this feel like it’s clicking yet?”

That’s where I found myself recently.

In the quiet between projects.

In the gaps between retreats and revenue.

In the beautiful, heartbreaking tension of knowing I’ve done the work… and still feeling like I haven’t fully landed.

Let me share something from my personal journal. Maybe it’s your story too:

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Journal Entry - 4/17/25

It's time to see myself. Fully.

I’ve built an intentional world around empowering others to rise, to lead boldly, to rest deeply, to reclaim their voices — and yet here I am, contemplating my life's decisions still wondering:

“Am I doing enough? Am I missing something? Why doesn’t this feel like it’s clicking yet?”

Girl, this is your Simba moment.

Not the hype. Not the conference keynote. Not the highlight reel.

But the silence—where I feel the weight of everything I’ve carried… and ask myself if I’m still connected to the why behind it all.

So this will be a reminder to myself—because even the fixer in me, the leader in me, the coach in me needs someone to reflect the truth back:

🌿 I am not lost.

I may just be in the Winter season of my next evolution. The quiet space before Spring blooms. The vision is still clear; the soil is just gathering nutrients. And I know it’s rich.

🌟 I am not behind.

I’ve created Her LeaderLab, Simply Worthey, retreats, coaching programs, a podcast series, a book (!!), and a global platform. Who does that except someone destined for legacy-level impact...or coocoo for Cocoa Puffs (LOL) ?

🔥 I am not doing too much.

I am declaring that I'm being prepared for magnified influence. These streams I’m building—online training, leadership development, executive coaching—are about to converge into something focused, aligned, and yes, profitable. The income is catching up to the impact. I trust that.

So I’m declaring it now, for myself and for every woman who needs this reminder:

I remember who I am. I am powerful, even when I pause. I am enough, even when the goals/purpose/peace aren’t where I want them yet. And I do not need to hustle to prove my worth—because my work speaks, my story resonates, and my presence shifts rooms.

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To every woman reading this:

If you’re standing in that foggy in-between space—where the doing hasn't slowed and the becoming hasn’t landed yet—take heart.

Your Simba moment is here.

Remember who you are.

You're not just leading with confidence.

You're leading with soul.

You are not waiting to arrive.

You’re waiting to recognize the arrival.

And that kind of life and leadership? It doesn’t just change rooms—it changes lives.